I have to admit that even though I am a therapist and very aware of coping skills, I struggle with the absolute craziness of the world now. I have some very productive days where I exercise, cook, do my paint by numbers. Then I have days where I feel worried about all the unknowns and feel irritable, sad, and negative. 

Havening is a technique that I am certified in that has been helpful for me during these difficult moments or even days. It's is an easy way to calm yourself and is being used all over the world for things like anxiety, PTSD, depression, and bringing more peace and tranquility to your life.  

Havening uses psycho sensory touch with distractions to create Delta waves which calm the body. 

Self-soothing with Havening

Use these techniques

  • Rub the palms of your hands in a circular motion
  • Gently rub both arms from shoulder to elbow
  •  Apply light touch on the face from forehead to cheeks  


While applying the Havening touch, imagine a beautiful place or a wonderful vacation. Notice what you see, hear, smell, feel. Breathe in and out while imagining your beautiful place.

I use these techniques to get more grounded and calm if I am feeling overwhelmed. I hope you find it to be helpful for self-soothing at home.

Be well,  


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